You have to look at it through his eyes, which you can do by looking at sexuality through your own eyes. The way you view the opposite sex (cuz I don’t know if you’re a guy or girl and I’m assuming you are straight) is exactly the same way he views other guys. When you imagine yourself in a committed relationship or potentially getting married, he thinks of it in the same way. It’s no different. It just happens to be with a guy instead of a girl. Imagine how unhappy you would be if you had to date the same gender as yourself. Same goes for your brother. Be happy that now he can finally find his own happiness. Be happy that your brother decided he wasn’t going to live the rest of his life miserable. Even if that means he may be subject to discrimination for the rest of his life. Be happy for him that he is finally who he is meant to be. It’s not about you and what you think.
How did your parents react when you came out? Are they not supportive and that is why you are scared? Maybe they just have no clue that you want them to stop calling you that and they just need to be told. On their part it could be a very difficult habit to break. They might need constant reminding. As for your brother, that is tough I’m not quite sure how you would go about resolving that issue other than talking with him about why he is so angry about it. Maybe your parents could be a part of the conversation as well, especially if they have been supportive of you. I dont know if you’ve seen this video on YouTube or not but it’s called The Whittington Family: Ryland’s Story. Could be a good video for them to watch if you think so.
Always good to hear that! But uh I don’t know… maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet. It’s possible that there wasn’t any sexual chemistry between you and any of your partners. Give it time, don’t go jumping to conclusions or thinking there is something wrong with you. <3
Screw them. You are going to hear all kinds of things that you don’t like. People are always going to put you down. You will learn that it is just ignorance on their part. Keep your head up. Coming out doesn’t make it a permanent decision either. If you identify as bisexual now and decide you want to identify as lesbian later, you have every right to do so. Or vice versa. They didn’t have to kiss the opposite sex to know they were straight did they? Seriously, let them think what they want. They are wrong no matter what anyways. <3
I can’t say. I can’t tell you anything other than maybe.. You have to respect that she needs to do this for herself. And on the other hand if continuing to hook up with her is just stringing you along and giving you false hopes then you should stop. She obviously needs to keep figuring out who she is and if she felt she needed to end your relationship to do so it might be in your best interest to move on. I can’t imagine it would be healthy for you to stick around while she explores herself. Might be a little painful for you don’t you think?
Ok well, this sounds a little like there may be some underlying psychological issues at hand… A past event that has scarred you? Which we are in no way able to help you through if that be the case. But, just to clarify, you no longer want to be around her or with her? Correct? You should be upfront with her. It isn’t fair to either of you to string each other along with false feelings. If you don’t want to be with her then don’t. Don’t continue to lead her on in hopes that things will change if they won’t. I’m kind of at a loss for words I’m sorry… I hope you can figure out what you need to make things better for yourself. If my initial thought is correct you should probably seek parental/ professional help, so you can sort through your emotions. I know it can be scary to ask for help but the alternative may be that you are never able to have a healthy relationship if these memories and feelings you have prevent you from doing so. You can message us again if you need. <3
Part 2) Should break up but I’m scared.. I planned my life out with her and revolving her and I don’t want it to not happen.. I do. But no matter how many times I tell her I need her to keep moving on no matter how hard it gets, she just gives up and then later when she wants to do it, it’s harder. I just, I’m independent and she’s not. Maybe it’s my fault you know? She’s sensitive and sweet, and will do almost anything for me. She loves me to death. It’s just hard, we are 17! So we can’t move out yet.
I’m not quite sure what you are referring to when you said, “But no matter how many times I tell her I need her to keep moving on no matter how hard it gets, she just gives up and then later when she wants to do it, it’s harder.” Is there something specific happening and reoccurring that is making her give up? Anyways, it sounds like there are some things going on with her right now that you just either don’t have the time/ motivation/ or energy to deal with? I guess, you need to put yourself in her shoes to try and understand better what it is that she needs from you. I have said this to everyone who has come asking for advice: “Communication is key!!!” It’s equivalent to the oxygen we breathe. Without it, the relationship will suffocate. If the relationship isn’t working then maybe you could continue to be moral support as just a friend. I understand the feelings of not wanting to give up on someone. But here are two things to consider: If the relationship is making you unhappy, it is time to do what is best for you. Whether that means breaking it off completely or still staying in touch is up to you. Second, if you are not willing or unable to reciprocate the work that a relationship needs to survive, then she deserves someone better. You both do. You both deserve to be with someone you would jump through hoops and over the fence for and who would do the same for you. You guys aren’t even in college yet. There is no way you could have planned out your life with each other and expected it to actually turn out that way. Who you are and who she is, will not be the same after college. You will grow and mature mentally and learn to think for yourselves and develop new values in life. I’m not saying that it is impossible for you to remain in each others lives, just that it won’t typically turn out how you are foreseeing it. Don’t let the thought of “throwing your lives together away” influence your decision. Hope this helps some. We are always willing to chat more if you need to. <3