Hello! We are JEN and CLAIRE, a lesbian couple here to document our life together, post things that inspire us, and support the LBGTQ community. Check out our "about us" link! Please feel free to ask us questions or relationship advice/opinions! (If it's personal just ask for a private response otherwise we will publish it so others may benefit!) This blog may contain NSFW content.

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Anonymous: Hello! :) I really need some advice because I don't have anyone to talk to about this but.. I've been going out with my girlfriend for a good 7 months now, but we have known eachother forever. Recently we have had a couple rough patches..& things haven't felt the same. I know she needs me, but I just feel really, done with it? She isn't the same her anymore, and I feel like I can't be who she needs me to be? She never talks to me, and I'm always working, and with school coming up? I feel like we

Part 2) Should break up but I’m scared.. I planned my life out with her and revolving her and I don’t want it to not happen.. I do. But no matter how many times I tell her I need her to keep moving on no matter how hard it gets, she just gives up and then later when she wants to do it, it’s harder. I just, I’m independent and she’s not. Maybe it’s my fault you know? She’s sensitive and sweet, and will do almost anything for me. She loves me to death. It’s just hard, we are 17! So we can’t move out yet.

I’m not quite sure what you are referring to when you said, “But no matter how many times I tell her I need her to keep moving on no matter how hard it gets, she just gives up and then later when she wants to do it, it’s harder.” Is there something specific happening and reoccurring that is making her give up? Anyways, it sounds like there are some things going on with her right now that you just either don’t have the time/ motivation/ or energy to deal with? I guess, you need to put yourself in her shoes to try and understand better what it is that she needs from you. I have said this to everyone who has come asking for advice: “Communication is key!!!” It’s equivalent to the oxygen we breathe. Without it, the relationship will suffocate. If the relationship isn’t working then maybe you could continue to be moral support as just a friend. I understand the feelings of not wanting to give up on someone. But here are two things to consider: If the relationship is making you unhappy, it is time to do what is best for you. Whether that means breaking it off completely or still staying in touch is up to you. Second, if you are not willing or unable to reciprocate the work that a relationship needs to survive, then she deserves someone better. You both do. You both deserve to be with someone you would jump through hoops and over the fence for and who would do the same for you. You guys aren’t even in college yet. There is no way you could have planned out your life with each other and expected it to actually turn out that way. Who you are and who she is, will not be the same after college. You will grow and mature mentally and learn to think for yourselves and develop new values in life. I’m not saying that it is impossible for you to remain in each others lives, just that it won’t typically turn out how you are foreseeing it. Don’t let the thought of “throwing your lives together away” influence your decision. Hope this helps some. We are always willing to chat more if you need to. <3

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She’s a keeper ❤️
bradford520: alright, i am about to sound like a total loser so i apologize in advance. I used to have a blog but i deleted it. I then got a girlfriend and came out and all those fun things so i want to share my story and relationship on here. So the loser part of my question is how do i get people to follow so i can try and help people?

You aren’t being a loser! You can submit pictures or stories to submission blogs. But mainly you just gotta make a lot of posts with a lot of tags, and like/reblog a lot of people’s pictures to get their attention. It will take time it’s a slow process. Make your blog active at all times of day so use the queued option. Also make sure your blog looks nice and appealing towards your target group of followers.

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fluorescxnt-adolescxnts: Hello Jen and Claire 😁 I am fourteen and I'm 100% sure I'm bi-sexual. I recently got asked out by this girl who I really really adore. I was just wandering could you give me some tips on how you came out and how I could. I'm really struggling because I'm scared of rejection ect. My mum is a lesbian but I don't have a very healthy communication relationship with her. And my dad and his wife are both Christian. I would really appreciate if you could answer this xx

Hi there! Well first off, we are glad you found someone you adore :) as far as coming out to your parents, are you afraid that they will reject you? Or are you more so referring to friends? You could start the conversation off with whoever you are talking to with “I’ve met someone I really like. They are a girl.” And go from there. When I came out it was to my sister. She then told my mom because I was having a conversation with my mom about wanting to stay I’m Flagstaff after I graduated college and she was like “well I think there is something, or someone that you aren’t telling me about.” So right away I knew my sister blabbed. But everyone was fine with it. I told all of my friends in the exact same way I suggested you start the conversation. Some were really confused and others just surprised but ultimately no one really cared or made a big deal of it. I’m sure you will be surprised at how easy it is once you just do it! -good luck!!!

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